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Your Guide To Becoming A Step-parent

Your Guide To Becoming A Step-parent

Try these top tips on step-parenting and blended families, plus check out our helpful list of resources to make the journey that much easier.

Your Guide To Becoming A Step-parent

You’ve met ‘the one’ but they come with kids. What comes next can be an enriching experience for you all. Welcome to the world of step-parenting and blended families. Further to our article in the new May issue of MiNDFOOD, try our top twelve tips for step-parenting and don’t forget to use the support resources below if needed.

Wherever possible, use humour.

• Be kind to yourself. Remember it will take some years for this new arrangement to settle.

• Make it clear to the children that you are not replacing their father/mother, but you will support them whenever they need you.

• Form the most positive relationship you can with the other parent.

• Accept assistance from friends, the other parent and grandparents when you need it.

• Talk to your partner about house rules and agree to stick to them.

• Be a support, but leave the disciplining to your partner.

• Realise that these feelings are okay and will pass: frustration, jealousy, guilt, sadness, anger and powerlessness.

• Take time out for yourself and give the children and your partner time alone together.

• Know that divided loyalties and competition will arise, particularly during the festive season.

• Seek help from a therapist or support group if it all gets too much.

• Be loving. Give the kids your time, interest and effort – they are precious.

Your Guide To Becoming A Step-parent


Books and other resources:

  • Stepmother Love – Ten Inspiring Stories about the Toughest Gig in the World, by Sally Collins (Simon & Schuster, 2014).
  • The Other Mother – A Tale of Love, Blending Families and Becoming a Wicked Stepmum, by Kelly Chandler (Affirm Press, 2017).
  • Take Heart – A Story for Modern Stepfamilies, by Chloe Shorten (Melbourne University Publishing, 2107).

For kids:

  • Super Jack, by Susanne Gervay (Harper Collins, 2003) – Jack learns how to deal with his new extended family.
  • Wicked! (Parts 1 to 6), by Paul Jennings and Morris Gleitzman – A tale of step-siblings Rory and Dawn who hate each other.

For support and information in Australia:

For support and information in New Zealand:

Read more in the May issue of MiNDFOOD, on sale now!

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