It’s often a time of endless events and socialising, which can quickly become overwhelming.
Rachel Harker, clinical psychologist and founder of the soon-to-be-launched, psychology-backed dating and friendship app Tribal, shares her expert tips for introverts forced to socialise this holiday season.
Here’s how to navigate these situations while preserving your energy:
1. Prepare Topics to Discuss
This is helpful if you feel particularly anxious or struggle with knowing what to contribute in a social situation. Prepare 3-5 topics in advance so if your mind goes blank on the night, you’ll be ready. Consider making them relevant to the party or time of year.
For example:
a. “What are your Christmas plans”
b. “Are you going away at all?”
c. “Are you getting any time off work, if so, what are you looking forward to doing?”
2. Quality Over Quantity
Don’t pressure yourself to talk to everyone. It’s always important to say hello and thank the host, however beyond that, focus on a few meaningful interactions.
One-on-one conversations or small groups may feel more manageable and allow you to feel less overwhelmed. Finding a safe person will likely make the event much more bearable.
3. Be Careful With Alcohol
Don’t rely on alcohol as a lubricant or for a boost in confidence. A few drinks throughout the night is totally fine, but make sure you’re eating and keeping hydrated as well. Balance is always key.
4. Take a Break When Needed
Throughout the event, a quick trip to the bathroom or some fresh air may be all you need to reset. Take a few deep breaths and re-centre yourself before returning to the event.
5. Respect Your Boundaries
This is a really important one. Don’t overextend yourself or force yourself into positions you feel uncomfortable with. If all you can manage is one hour at a particular event, that’s okay. Be proud of yourself for going and listen to your limits.
6. Plan Recovery Time
Make sure you prioritise self-care and downtime after the event. This will help you recharge and reset. Knowing you have this planned ahead of time may also make committing to social events more comfortable.
